Impossible is a word ....

Impossible is a word only to be found in the dictionary of fools. ~Napoleon

You are no fool!!!

So let's look at this another way..

it's always a good idea to get another prospective. 

I  M POSSIBLE

... the beauty that still remains.

I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains.  

~Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl



In light of the tragedy of this day many years ago, these words are appropriate not only in their meaning but also from whom these words are attributed to.   With tragedy comes sorrow, anger and disbelief.  Yet in order to survive and prevail, the beauty  that still remains must be appreciated, protected, and championed. 

It's not who you are that holds you back....

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.  ~Attributed to Hanoch McCarty


So who do you think you are not?  Sometimes we are getting the message from others that we are not..........not good enough, not strong enough, not loving enough,  just not enough.  Sometimes we are telling ourselves this story.  

Make a list of your thoughts.   No really make a list, please!!! Just write down 3 things?  And if you don't have 3 things to say that's OK.   We are going to start off with just one anyway.


Once you have your list, look at each word or phrase separately and answer these questions>

Start with one item on your list:
1. How important is it to you to be this ..........?   If it isn't that important to you then let it go.   If it is important to you then move on to the following questions and actions.

2. Ask yourself why is it important?  It is something you want for yourself or it something that someone has told you you should be?  Is it truth or perhaps a story you have been lead to believe.  Do you want to be that person? 

3. If this is something you want for yourself then create a plan for change.  Perhaps you need assistance in making the change or perhaps not. Reach out for help, if you do.  Actually reaching out may be your first step to change.  

Beginning your plan
a. What is your goal?  What do you want to do, be or change?
b. What is one step or action can you take to make that change? Think Baby steps
c. Set a time when you will begin to take that small step.
d. Do it.      
e. Repeat the process. 


4.  And very important NOW MAKE A LIST OF WHAT YOU ARE..yes all the things you are and believe to be true of you.   Circle all the positive things about you.   There lies your strength.  

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. ~Peter T. Mcintyre

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong. 
 ~Peter T. Mcintyre

Fears can be a pretty big part of life.   Fears can stop you from taking action on every level and aspect of your life.  There are clinically diagnosed fears, situational fears and there are the everyday fears and anxieties.   Things like judgement of others and self.   Not meeting your own expectations or what you perceive as the expectations of others.   

This quote really speaks to a concept that can make a marked change in one's outlook on life.   What if it was OK to make a mistake, or not be the absolute best (that's a value judgement), or accepted yourself for who you are?   

Confidence is a wonderful thing.  It gives you the permission to take action and know that if even if things don't go exactly as you intended, you have the ability to take action again.....learning along the way that you can make a change, you can gain new knowledge and skills, and that you can accept yourself.     

When the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, it may be that they take better care of it there. ~Cecil Selig

Are you taking care of your side?   Are you doing anything to nourish your body and mind..are you taking care of yourself?      Here are a few suggestions:

• Drink more water- it not only sustains and cleanses the body but it also helps your brain to function better.
• Go outside and get some fresh air everyday.  Walk for 5 (10, 15) minutes if you can.
• Give yourself a scheduled time for quiet and peace.  Close your eyes for a moment and breathe.  
• Practice forgiveness…don't let anyone live you your head rent free.  

Your problem is you're... too busy holding onto your unworthiness. ~Ram Dass

Your problem is you're... too busy holding onto your unworthiness.  ~Ram Dass


Let it Go!!  Give it UP!!!  Stop beating yourself up about the past, or the lies you have been told…. 

You are worthy.   Say it…"I am worthy.."

If you are going to doubt something, doubt your limits. ~Don Ward

If you are going to doubt something, doubt your limits.  ~Don Ward

Maybe it's hard to believe that you have unlimited power in your life.  But you do…you have the ability to believe, image and create the life you desire.   I'm not saying this is magical..that creating an image in your mind will make it appear before you in real life… but your thoughts do have an overwhelming affect on your body and state of mind…. if you believe in the limits that someone else has placed on you or that you have placed on yourself, then those limits will control every decision, action and effort you make in your life.    Ask yourself…."what do they really know?  How can I be sure?"   Test these limits.  It will take effort, work and time..but you'll be surprised how far you will go. 

We do not remember days; we remember moments. ~Cesare Pavese, The Burning Brand

We do not remember days; we remember moments.  ~Cesare Pavese, The Burning Brand


It is the moment, the word, the look, the aroma, the sensation that affects us.  Etched into our subconscious mind.  Many moments are life changing..although at that moment you have no idea the affect it will have on your future self..some moments are kind, others not so much.. You have the power to release the moments that have affected you in a negative way through forgiveness.  Unconditional forgiveness…this is for you…no one but you.

Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different. ~Katherine Mansfield

Could we change our attitude, we should not only see life differently, but life itself would come to be different.  ~Katherine Mansfield

You can make a change, but perhaps it's a fear of change that stops people from taking the step to get the help or find the method that will enable them to live a different life.  We are naturally prone to adapting to a pattern and no matter how uncomfortable the pattern (lifestyle) may become, the unknown can be more intimidating.....taking the steps to adjust your point of view will create a new life for you.  "You may not have control over the condition of the world but you do control the condition of your thoughts."  ESC

There is not such thing as TRY

Try not.  Do or do not.  There is no try.  ~Yoda in The Empire Strikes Back




"I'll try to meet you later for dinner......"


"I'll try to finish that book I'm reading (or writing)........"


"I'll try to go with you........"


"I'll try to help you..........."


So what do you think?   Can you count on me?  Will I do those things?  Will I follow through?   Be honest --what do you expect from me now?   


How many times do you use the word "try"?    The word is meaningless. No let me take that back ...it pretty much means " I will not meet you.... finish the book.....go with you....help you."    Making an effort, attempting to accomplish something and setting a goal....doing the best you can... that's all we can do.. Whether you succeed or not, it's the action you take that counts...Do or do not..but don't include "try" in your vocabulary.

If man thinks about his physical or moral state he usually discovers that he is ill.~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

If man thinks about his physical or moral state he usually discovers that he is ill.
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Let's turn that around......
Take a moment to think about the things you enjoy,  the things that make you laugh, the things that make you smile.... just smile.  Thank about any time, any where, from your past or what you plan for the future.  Say something about what you are thinking --out loud or to yourself.....

You have done more to improve your health then you realize, just by thinking in a positive way.   According to an article on the Mayo Clinic Website:  Through engaging in positive thinking and most importantly positive self talk you have:

• Increased life span

• Lower rates of depression

• Lower levels of distress

• Greater resistance to the common cold

• Better psychological and physical well-being

• Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease

• Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress

Spend your time thinking about the positive,  believe it or not whatever your story, history or past, you have it better then someone else out there in this world.   Do yourself a favor:
Appreciate every day
Find one positive idea, thought or event to think about it every day
OH and smile more.  

 Mayo Clinic article on Positive Thinking and Health

What should I eat?

"To think too long about doing a thing often becomes its undoing".  ~Eva Young


Hypnosis is all about changing your mind to enable you to make better decisions AND TAKE ACTION....With that said when it comes to making good food choices.. we are consantly getting conflicting information about what is good for us to eat...I just read two articles from the same source and while one suggestion was to eat more of a particular food the other article suggested you stop eating that food altogether.


So now-you still don't know what is best to eat and you are THINKING MORE about FOOD.    No wonder being over-weight is a problem for so many.  Diets don't work in the long run, but you can change your habits. 

anxiety about a diet

What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious disease.  ~George Dennison Prentice, Prenticeana, 1860

The goal in any weight loss program is that the client (you) become comfortable with their eating patterns and that food is not a constant thought. You are  satisfied with only the amount of food that your body needs in order to live a long, healthy life.   When food no longer is a substitute for fulfilling emotional needs, comfort and a way to deal with stress you will find that your eating habits have improved, you enjoy the food you do eat and you are conscious of the choices you make.   Although mindless eating patterns must be changed in order for weight loss to occur...that doesn't mean you stop thinking about the food you are eating..no you focus as you eat in the moment, savour the wonderful taste, flavors, sense the textures and enjoy each bite.  

Forgivness is the key

Without forgiveness life is governed by... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.  ~Roberto Assagioli

New Year’s resolutions are all based on a desire to make a change.  A new year, a new life.   On January 1^st, the intention is powerful, the motivation is strong…but within a few weeks or even days…that goal may seem unreachable and old habits return. Why does this happen?  What stops you from following through? 

Limiting beliefs.. those messages in your mind.. some real,  some imagined, become the roadblocks to moving forward in life, derailing actions that lead to unfulfilled goals.   A limiting belief, you hear it when the voice in your head speaks and that message stops you from following through.  Sometimes that voice is your own; the negative self talk, doubt and lack of confidence, and sometimes the voice is from your past. 

 Perhaps a fear of success or fear of the unknown is your roadblock.   These are natural feelings, yet not the most beneficial to you when your habits and behaviors are life threatening or affect your quality of life.  Behaviors like smoking, overeating, poor sleep patterns, or fears and anxieties limit you in so many ways.   Although you  can rationalize and tell yourself  that those limiting beliefs are non truths, unless you  forgive others and most importantly yourself,  chances are,  that message will continue to play non- stop and stop you..in your tracks.   The mind is very powerful, your thoughts, intentional or not, not only influence your actions but affect you emotionally, physically and mentally.   You need to reduce stress, eliminate negative beliefs and change habits, which leads us back to your New Year’s resolution. 

Make a change, change your mind.   

Hypnosis and Emotional Freedom Technique are the strategies that will help "make that change" for a better life.