It's not who you are that holds you back....

It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not.  ~Attributed to Hanoch McCarty


So who do you think you are not?  Sometimes we are getting the message from others that we are not..........not good enough, not strong enough, not loving enough,  just not enough.  Sometimes we are telling ourselves this story.  

Make a list of your thoughts.   No really make a list, please!!! Just write down 3 things?  And if you don't have 3 things to say that's OK.   We are going to start off with just one anyway.


Once you have your list, look at each word or phrase separately and answer these questions>

Start with one item on your list:
1. How important is it to you to be this ..........?   If it isn't that important to you then let it go.   If it is important to you then move on to the following questions and actions.

2. Ask yourself why is it important?  It is something you want for yourself or it something that someone has told you you should be?  Is it truth or perhaps a story you have been lead to believe.  Do you want to be that person? 

3. If this is something you want for yourself then create a plan for change.  Perhaps you need assistance in making the change or perhaps not. Reach out for help, if you do.  Actually reaching out may be your first step to change.  

Beginning your plan
a. What is your goal?  What do you want to do, be or change?
b. What is one step or action can you take to make that change? Think Baby steps
c. Set a time when you will begin to take that small step.
d. Do it.      
e. Repeat the process. 


4.  And very important NOW MAKE A LIST OF WHAT YOU ARE..yes all the things you are and believe to be true of you.   Circle all the positive things about you.   There lies your strength.